How Your Identity Guides Your Observations

Everybody has an event or circumstance in their life that changes or gives them their identity. In my case, studying in an all girl school gave me a different perspective of life in many ways. Society is one that have discriminated woman, and since I was a little girl I was taught that women could be very powerful. Throughout the years this discrimination has decreased, but it is present in some cultures. Raised to believe that women can be anything they want to be makes it hard for me to see or accept those cultures where women are oppressed. All of these years believing this have made me watch carefully how men treat women around me. I can’t stand men who abuse women to feel more powerful. When coming to this subject I observe every detail and in my personal life I take in consideration every aspect I like or not. It’s not being a feminist, but just not approving of that discrimination towards women that was once present in our society.

Usually I pay close attention to couples and how they interact with each other. It’s not about being the best one, but to make each other happy. Due to the education and lifestyle I’ve had, I tend to expect a lot of men. Like I said, I pay close attention to the small details. Any woman would love to see how a true gentleman helps her with her heavy bags. I understand that in a relationship everything needs to go both ways, but there are things that I expect. My identity from the start was guided to look for a true gentleman; I believe that this aspect of my life was a fundamental one that would not change and guide a lot of decision I might be taking in the future.